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How do You Know if Someone Really Loves You

IN THE BEGINNING

Love is something that most people aspire to attain during their lifetimes. There are many different types of love, of course: Platonic love, such as that shown to family members and friends, is an important emotion that stays with you through thick and thin. Love of an inanimate object or thing, such as a job, is important too in that it is what you do every day of your life to maintain your lifestyle and support your family and values. However, romantic love is, in many ways, the most important type of love that there is.
That is because romantic love is the thing that keeps our emotional health in balance and our mental health in check. Romantic love can be difficult to come by but is well worth the wait.

As you mature from your teenage years into adulthood, it becomes more important to begin thinking about what type of future you wish to have. Do you even want to have a partner to share your life with? Do you want someone to help you start a family, share life experiences and grow old with? What is it you are looking for in a life long partner? There are many men and women in the world who are just waiting for the perfect “someone” to come along but it isn’t always easy. And once you do find that person, how can you be sure he or she truly loves you? This might seem obvious, but often times it is not.

To be truthful, most relationships are built on initial impressions that the person presents upon your meeting: Appearance, subtle habits, professional aspirations, likes and dislikes all play a role in whether your interest is piqued or not. For instance, if you meet someone who meets all of your expectations except one- say, she or he is a brunette rather than the blonde you had hoped for- you may immediately decide that this person would not be of interest to you. If this is the case, than it will be hard to find someone who will fall as deeply in love with you and you will with them. Being too picky can easily eliminate a lot of great people out there. Therefore, you should decide right up front what you can and cannot live with. And you should also remember that often, love doesn’t hit you square in the face at first sight. Instead, it grows softly as time goes by. And this may be true of the person you are meeting.

IS THIS A RELATIONSHIP WORTH PURSUING?

Once a relationship is established, however, how do you know that the “love of your life” reciprocates your feelings? And after you have been together for awhile, do you think that perhaps your significant other is not as interested as he or she once was? Do you feel as if their love for you is waning? How can you tell if she or he is telling the truth when they assure you that they still love and adore you?

SIGNS THAT THINGS ARE NOT GOING SO WELL

There are many telltale signs that indicate whether or not someone is telling the truth about their true feelings for you. Some indications that your partner may be pulling away are as follows:
1. Does he/she show less interest in your likes and dislikes than when you first met?
2. Does he/she refuse to join you in activities that you once enjoyed together?
3. Is there a general lack of interest in your work or activities?
4. Do you see a change in daily habits that your partner is involved in such as going out more with his/her friends, watching more TV late at night rather than coming to bed with you, talking or texting on the phone excessively, forgetting to do or participate in things he/she promised you would be done.
5. Is your loved one drinking more than usual or participating in drug use for the first time ever?

These are just a few of the things to look for in a relationship that may be floundering. This does not mean that there is no hope for things to get better. These are just warning signs that the relationship needs help, i.e. a marriage counselor or some other type of counseling such as a church social worker or a licensed psychologist.

SIGNS THAT THINGS ARE PROBABLY GOING YOUR WAY

On the other hand, there are many sure signs that your partner truly cares for you and loves you deeply. Some of these may be subtle, so you may need to look for them. These include:
1. Putting your needs before his/hers.
2. Helping with the household chores, whether you have requested their help or not.
3. Complimenting you on your appearance, your work, your choice of anything from clothing to furniture to the children’s wardrobe.
4. Doing little things that are totally unexpected: Flowers for no reason at all, a dinner out on the town, picking up a couple of good steaks for dinner instead of the hotdogs you had planned on fixing. Breakfast in bed is always good too.
5. Does he hold the door and is she appreciative when you do so? Both are good signs that love – and respect – are in tact.
6. Holding your hand in public and while watching a movie at home. It is always a good sign when your partner is proud to be seen with you and displays public (and private) affectiion without hesitation.
7. Includes you in planning vacations, parties, outings and major purchases. That shows you that your partner values your input and really cares what you think.
8. Truly approves of and enjoys the idea of your having friends and activities outside the partnership.
9. Laughs at your jokes, whether they are funny or not. Laughs with you and not at you!

Again, these are just a few of the telltale signs that love exists in your relationship. There are so many more, of course, if you only take the time to look.

HOW TO PRESERVE THE LOVE

Showing your significant other that you love them is an important part of any relationship. Anyone can ask their partner “Do you still love me?” but the answer may be positive and the actions not. These are things that you can look for every day of the week. Of course, the fireworks that initiated the relationship in the first place rarely continue as time progresses. However, they can be rekindled with frequent “time outs” such as regular small (or not so small!) vacations out of town, day trips to a place you both have always wanted to visit, having date nights on a regular basis (get a sitter who will be available on a certain day of the week, every week)…take in a movie, have a nice dinner, walk in the park. If you reside near a park or a body of water, take time to enjoy nature together. This is one of the best ways to wind down after a difficult week and enjoy one another by holding hands, having a picnic meal, walking along the shore. (If your partner has no interest in doing any of this, well, go back to the first list of items depicting signs of love lost and review it again).

The most important thing to remember about knowing that your partner loves you is communication. Make sure you talk about things that are bothering you as well as things that are making you happy in the relationship. Otherwise, problems can fester and explode in the future. Many divorces could be avoided if couples just took the time to talk their problems out with one another or with a professional counselor. True love is worth preserving and although it might seem so easy to just get a divorce, it is important to realize that giving up on a relationship that once meant so much to you is sort of like selling a fine car because it needs a tune up. And if there happens to be children involved, the love doesn’t end with you and your partner: You must take them into consideration. Their hearts will be broken and their worlds will be changed drastically.

HAPPY ENDINGS

If someone truly loves you, they will work hard to preserve the relationship you have built together. That in itself is probably the most important thing to remember when trying to determine whether or not your partner still loves you. They will respect your feelings about things that are important in your life: Family, finances, health and welfare of the members of your family, religious beliefs, tastes in music and other entertainment media as well as everyday things such as your love of an afternoon nap, your passion for nature, your preference for sharing the chores in the house equally. Love comes in many forms and is shown in many ways.

There is no one thing that will alert you to the fact that your significant other still cares for you and loves you. But with a little attention to detail, and a lot of communication between the two of you, it will become obvious to you just how much this relationship is worth saving.

{ 54 comments… add one }

  • Rahma Tijjan April 19, 2011, 9:06 pm

    it’s realy god to know about love, please i will like to now more throgh my mail just love

  • Angela May 4, 2011, 11:54 am

    I think with what i have ready i bealive my partner loves me so much

  • JOSHUA July 20, 2011, 9:10 am

    i never regret falling in love with my partner.from the lessons i was able to draw a conclusion that my partner loves me so much.

  • elaine August 7, 2011, 9:34 pm

    im still scared that i may get hurt by leting down my guard

  • Carley August 14, 2011, 8:11 am

    I am 14 I have been with my boyfreind for 7 months now and we talk about spending the rest of our lives together alot I know he truely loves me because he shows me he doesn’t just say I love you is that enough no he shows me by asking me how I feel and helping me with my small problems and we were each others first kiss and it was speacial and I truely belive we will be together for the rest of our lives despite what people say about teenage relationships and how they don’t last I love him and I want to be with him forever and I will be

  • kadija August 26, 2011, 12:13 pm

    with what I’ve read i believe that he do loves me…. but what bout the jealously part he always likes me to be staying indoors, to be near him always and doesn’t want me to be hanging around with ma friends that much.He easily gets angry when i mention the word out… or a wanna go out with ma friends could it be lack trust an for a lasting relationship there must be trust an i really do love him with all of my heart

  • Nsuh Norbert August 30, 2011, 11:43 am

    I dont really know how to pesevere in love and most of my relationships dont last

  • kimbo September 8, 2011, 4:37 pm

    its funny all shows that he loves me. And we have been through alot ups and downs.. Yet always been there for eachother and he shows me that he loves everyday.. Yet why did he cheat on me?

  • Andrew Butler October 29, 2011, 3:30 am

    How can an article that starts with a description of human existence as ‘lifetimes’ be taken seriously?
    There are two types of people in the world: People who love and people who want to be loved.
    A person will recognise true love when they are ready to discover it in themselves (during the course of their lifetime ).

  • ashley November 15, 2011, 2:30 pm

    i lelive me and my girlfriend are in love. we have been together for qiute sometime now (sorry for the bad spelling) and when she’s not around me i feel weird and empty. I love being arounf her every second and she told me she loved me once when we where on a date and i said i love you to. We haven’t kissed yet only because i’m saving that moment for a special time. I love to cuddle with her and hug her all the time. The cool thing baiout her is that i met her at an anime con becak somtime ago and we have been together since a week after the con. She asked me out and i barly knew her name, But im glad she did, cuz i do really love her.

  • parris November 22, 2011, 5:16 pm

    thanks for da help it really help me understand da things dat i will have to take wen i fall in love

  • anisha December 7, 2011, 6:45 pm

    I like a person. But i don’t know is i’m in love with him ?

  • Nyash guy December 22, 2011, 11:13 am

    I know have understood how to keep the ove of my life

  • Nyash guy December 22, 2011, 11:54 am

    I now have understood how to keep the love of my life more smart .

  • lee January 30, 2012, 4:05 pm

    Love is wonderful and sweet………… I want to know more about love

  • Jonathan February 7, 2012, 8:04 pm

    This is great i wish i knew about this before my girl friend broke up with me i need help and advice about what i do or what i might have done wrong please email me i really need help becaus i fell head over heels for this girl and i really do love her. i have done things for her that i have not for others and i have not dated many girls. she is so special to me and shes like me in alot of ways.

  • Gabrielle February 20, 2012, 12:08 am

    This article really made my relationship with my boyfriend more clear to me. It gave me a wonderful insight on the true nature of love and reminded me why I chose him as my partner in the first place…thank you so much for writing this! You have a talented way with words.

  • Donna February 27, 2012, 1:41 pm

    I like this

  • Precious February 29, 2012, 4:07 pm

    It’s true,what u listed.anyone dat loves u wld make u happy.

  • Ifunanya March 2, 2012, 9:59 pm

    From what i have, i think my partner loves me.

  • jodi March 17, 2012, 4:05 am

    sometimes i cant tell if he loves me or if he is in love with me and i am afraid to ask i honestly dont think he is in love with me i think he loves me because i keep the house clean and take care of the checkbook sometimes i feel more like a serveant than a girlfriend he is not a very affection man and i know that and i accept that it is just sometimes i think he takes me for granted and i think he tells me he loves me because thats what i want to hear i am in love in him very much but like i said i dont think he is in love with me sometimes i dont know what to do he has a really good sense of humor he takes good care of me financially but somedays i just wish he would give me a hug and say i love you

  • Amanda March 19, 2012, 4:51 am

    from what i have read my partner loves me so much too, but what happens if theres someone else out there that loves you then what happens????????

  • Jared March 23, 2012, 6:54 pm

    I am confused about my girlfriend. when we were first talking and dating she would text back so fast and let me know when she was not going to be able to talk for a while. But now she will text very slow and not tell me when she is going to be gone for a while. I want to talk to her about stuff but it is really hard for me because she will get upset and feel like she’s not good enough and stuff, and then somehow when i say i am upset she is the one who decides not to talk to me for a little while, am i too clingy?

  • natasha davis March 26, 2012, 2:05 pm

    i like this alott but im still confused about me and my boyfriend . but i likw this shud do more .

  • antonette April 4, 2012, 5:38 am

    love is great!!!!!

  • dhaval singh April 13, 2012, 5:51 am

    yeah!thats nice ..really good to know about love …i really love my chik neelam but i cant tell her.and now i will surely express my love to you dear.can someone help me please .her e-mail id is – (salinajb11@gmail.com) on facebook.please help me coz i really love her!!!!i love you dear

  • lion May 11, 2012, 6:34 pm

    thank u so much!

  • Mabel June 28, 2012, 11:56 pm

    I wish I could fast forward to the day i meet the person I’m going to merry…
    I know it takes time to find your significant other but i hope i find that person soon.!

  • thoughts July 4, 2012, 1:44 pm

    Love, you got to love it and hate it at the same time. It makes you feel so great, but at other times so low. In a relationship, love is like a reflection of life, or the life you want. morals, beliefs, standards , and all that stuff is involved. Priorities. Men and women have different priorities. therefore we love differently or have a different way about it. If not intially checked appropriately, love takes a down turn eventually. Divorce being the end result for older couples. So even tho the love is there, the priorities are not. That creates tension in relationships. But it doesn’t mean the other person doesn’t love you. It just means they’re living love thru their eyes and thoughts. And if its true love, then you can see past that. Nothing is impossible. True love makes you feel that way. I should start my own blog!! so many perspectives on love. Which can be life for some people.

  • adriaan July 4, 2012, 11:32 pm

    well i dont know how to put this but i defnitly need advice my female partner lives with me and we have a child together sho onec cheated on me but in the begining of oure relaitionship but i gave here a second chance coz everyone deserves one right wel to make a long story short its now 7 chances later my friend say i am crazy and they ask me why am i doin it i even tried doing the thing she did to me to hurt here but it doesnt make me feel beter at all i love this girl so much i think it might be posible that i am blindfolded by love the way i see it is i love her i wanto be with here and i know that she want the same but why does it feel that im lacking trust can it be because i alredy exided the limits of chances or is the problem lying on me pleas advice would defnitly be helpfull

  • Cloye July 19, 2012, 8:56 pm

    Well what do you do if you are let down a lot, like little mistakes that repeat themselves. Sure you can love someone with all you have, but if you keep forgetting or sometimes choosing the wrong thing. What does the person being hurt do?

  • Janny July 21, 2012, 7:16 pm

    I know dat my patner really love but more advice

  • Abby July 28, 2012, 2:09 pm

    My sister is 21 and she likes this guy like a lot! However me and our parents dont approve so i dont really know what to do i mean hes kinda of horrible to me he drinks,and hes just bad and i dont want to be his sister in law and ive cryed a lot about this subject she lies a LOT to go to his house to see him and who knows to do what else i really dont know what to do!! I dont even know if he truly loves her or not!! =(

  • Abby July 28, 2012, 2:18 pm

    And so i was reading this to try and figure out if he really loves her and if they do get married will they wanna divorce after that?

  • khanya July 29, 2012, 7:09 pm

    hai my name is khanyisa yeh ths article tels m a lot about lv bt im more confused me nd ma man used 2 lov ich other bt now its jst a fyt we spent 5 years together,he usualy sent m nyc nd romantic sms bt knw wen i snt hm an sms not even a responce he jst tel m that he lv m bt previously he realy lvd m compared to da article bt now im not sure nd i do need lv any who can help m bcoz i lv him realy

  • Agglove July 31, 2012, 10:58 am

    Its so lovely to read this article of love, i really get alot so far i love psychology of relationship and marriage i take some note for friends who didnt visit this page, im not in love may be later it will help me alot.

  • john August 10, 2012, 1:17 am

    hey so me and my gf have been dating for almos 4 months haha yeah ik its a short time but its been more then i could ever ask for haha like idk just everything about her ive loved i dont have many expectaions and don have many standards except have fun with me laugh a my totally stupid jokes and dont hurt me and i wont hurt you but lately things dont seem kind of right? like weve been saying we love each other now and idk if its true because when ever i think about it my stomach hurts and i get a bit knocious but i mean like shes all ive ever waned i just dont know whats wrong? like i mean she says she wont hurt me but sometimes its hard to believe i just need some help please like idk what to do any more lol… like i wana be with her more then anything and i just need to know whats wrong cause i mean we talk about a future together but like it seems so unreal cause its so good? like she treats me so right but sometimes i just worry that im not enough for her? i need someones honest opinion

  • Katrina October 12, 2012, 1:53 am

    im in a relationship with my bdoyfriend and hes 14 anf im 13 he says he loves me blablabla and i realllly love him but hes so i dont know how to put it but he jas another girlfriend.and me and him have been on and off alot and this other girls hes with liked him alot nd everything blabla but i dont know her shes just a mystery girl to me nd he says he loves me but how can i kniw during school we cant talk cuz i cant speak to him on school grounds and after school i can but when he heads home he comes like at 7 and his curfew is at 8:30 so idk what he could be doing i mean i love him with all my heart but i dont know anymore i mean when we broke up i still loved him alot but it was going away little bits just im like realy confused if he loves m i mean the first to times we were together he showed me his love nd the third kinda the fourth not really the fith just a little …….excetera and then the rest he stoped showing it nd i was the one that broke up with him cuz i didnt want to get hurt yes i was very insecre now im not much now im just like ok whatever but i kinda do get made nd yes i was made.about the mystery girl because i really love him nd i dont like the fact hes with someone else! im like so confused on what to do?

  • crystal October 16, 2012, 1:39 pm

    seriously love is hard but one thing i do know is stay true to yourself through love and the ones you love you can lose yourself and it can really damage a lot and o matter what stay positive and never give up : )

    angel 444 ever

  • Ali October 24, 2012, 7:48 pm

    Reading this, Now I do 100% Believe that my partner loves me very much too! its hard to learn and trust that someone loves you very much like they say, But i guess its all about believin in your self!

  • shaun rck November 11, 2012, 4:39 pm

    Vee i still love you the same way since the day i first met you with all of my heart. I cant give up on us and your the fuel to my heart without you i am empty and dying. I was a fool in lettting you go and not fighting for you. You were more than a friend to me and very close to my heart. I was a fool in not always showing you how much you ment to me and i should have done more in showing you how much i loved you. It breaks my heart in not being with you and so far away from you. I still remember the first day i met you you were wearing a peach apricot top and your smile was one of the reasons i fell in love with you. I never wanted you to changed nor did i ask of you to do so my Angel. Please stay who you are and never change for nobody All my love Shaun

  • Stephanie November 14, 2012, 3:49 am

    With wat I read I really do thnk ma husband luvs me, we been thru tick & thin & always there for eachother & he does anythng to make me happy, but wat I dnt understand is why he cheated??

  • Hamida November 14, 2012, 5:25 am

    4rm da article i red i think sam pipo nid 2 play a more nice trick 2 mak dem bilive dat dey a loved,communication is da key 2 a successful ending & i thank who wrote da article 4 opening closed gates 4 mani of youths nowadayz

  • nnurom collins November 16, 2012, 11:11 pm

    swt is love bt love is pain am scared

  • promise November 23, 2012, 6:22 am

    Fragile heart could be alittle get confused abt pple,,,,thinking Ў☺ΰ are loved whereas they are…..

  • keabetswe makhothi November 24, 2012, 4:53 pm

    I really love him but he doe’s not believe,I dont know how must show him.

  • prince ezyo November 27, 2012, 1:48 pm

    Wow …..!!! I really appreciate but Mh I need to know more about love…………….can anyone help me please?….

  • Kimpa December 29, 2012, 7:08 am

    WOw dat gr8 u hav a point i tink my wyf lv me

  • Kelly December 30, 2012, 12:58 am

    Me and my bf have been together a couple of months but he has changed a lot since we first got together he is always out and i hardly see him he tells me he loves me and he dont want to lose me but i dont know if he does i love him loads but there is no point in being with someone who dont feel the same

  • ASHLEY January 14, 2013, 5:03 am

    I figured my boyfriend loves me…. but reading this just signed, and sealed it… if this is true, then i have something good on my hands… and ill never let him go. I love him with all my heart and its obvious that he loves me …

  • ANNETAH January 29, 2013, 7:24 am

    love is great you feel woe wen you are with a better half.so special wen things are okay but since i get married have realized that love is like class work you need to work extra hard to keep it burning never look for what vyour partner can do for you but what youcan do for him or her if you are wife try to cook nice meals, a warm welcome after work even if you were at work dont mind do it heartedly, keep his clothes neat, the house warm bath with him i really love it my love i love you so much i long to be with you every time tho we are both at work . i love you love love you.please be sending this advice to me regularly pls

  • marcky February 7, 2013, 1:47 pm

    I just love it,am going to do my best to have a true love in my life,to be in a true love just so swty,I hope Brian is my true love,

  • Horselover March 26, 2013, 9:56 pm

    Im 9 and I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years now (inlove)

    Love is a strange feeling

  • Quin June 5, 2013, 11:02 am

    This post is great. I love my significant other so much, i cant believe it at times. Shes my everything and always will be. I love you Nicole :). Always always.

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